Love 101

The extrapersonal cannot satisfy the intrapersonal.
With someone else you are building something,
but not yourself.

“I’m happy WITH this person”.
And without, you still are who you were before, are you not incomplete in your self?

And so, you are in a relationship of dependence and need, and therefore it is predestined to fail.

How can you love someone else, when you do not love yourself? You cannot.

But you will look again to someone else.
The cycle of starting-up and breaking-off repeats.
Why do you not ever look to your self?
What is your nonsensical concept of the one? An excuse.
An excuse to cycle through so many partners, because there’s ONLY ONE who fits the boot.
In truth, there are hundreds (for some of you, thousands).
The problem, then, is your self.

Instead of building with someone else, build your self.
You will have satisfaction and completeness, and not need look in anyone else for that, for you already have it.

Then, at some point, there will be the one.
This one is the one because rather than love out of default and need, you have love out of choice and want.
That is the everlasting bond.

It is too often, however, I see “relationships” develop out of default. You love someone because, in not loving your self, you need someone to do it for you. Therein was no choice to a partner, but a subconscious dictation; needing someone.

We should be concerned with ourselves, to see to it that we are built and our sought potential achieved. Because it is the ideology of a relationship that one’s partner comes first, and one second. In that sacrifice, we could forgo our potential, depending on the grandeur or modesty of our goals. Yet we have those that are incomplete such that that they are subconsciously directed onto someone else! How will that incomplete person be built, if he is busy building something (predestined to fail) but not himself?

It bears significance that there is the term “hopeless romantic” but, there is not “hopeless love”, is there? It is romantic to think that a partner will solve your incompleteness, it is as well hopeless. Before building with someone else, build your self.